Every motivational speaker tells you that you can do anything. Society tells you that all depends on you. But let’s think about it… what facts support this theory?
At patriargate, on the contrary we believe that every individual is more or less bound to a certain destiny. Let’s look at basic facts:
- We are born with the genes we have, nothing more
- Behaviors depend on genes at least by 50%
- Our social environment is determined at our birth
- The culture and country we live in as children is not in our hands
- Our brain develops until teenage
- We have no control over the food we eat until adulthood
- We have no control over our education
- We have no control over the amount of money our parents have in our childhood
So let’s face it, what control do we really have over the way we evolve? Factually, our brain builds up during our childhood without anything in our control. Almost nothing that is given to us actually depends on us.
As adults, what was given to us by society and nature is pretty much what we have. Can we change our biology? No. So what is under our control? Only two things:
- Our environment
- What we put in our head
Yet, our environment is only a mere aggregate of our past which translates in our present ability to select it. Of course, luck exists, but is not sufficient.
This is also why we believe that society has to change as a whole for individuals to change durably.
You can’t be what you aren’t
You can’t know what you don’t
You can’t change without a model
Until now, science has not been able to modify our genes. So, the biggest impact on our biology in our hands derive from:
After this, the only thing that’s left for any of us is to develop self consciousness, and to work slowly on one or two aspects. The typical timeframe to change one thing about us is one year. What you will need for that is good habits, and a model. That’s not easy, believe me. You just can’t become what you would have been under ideal conditions. Fine tuning, that’s all we have.
Remember that the biggest change is to be brought to your children. So, get a wife and make children.