The big irony in the “Game community” is that everyone tries to tell how a so called “alpha male” is supposed to act, rather than focusing what are the foundation of being a MAN. This “acting as alpha” is anything but manly. Man don’t fake being someone else, they are. Faking personality is more of a female trait, not a manly one. So what is being a man?
First of all, it is worth noting that men, just few decades ago, did not bother with that question. What changed? Why are today’s men lost? And what are the consequences? Education, media, Internet changed everything for sure, but these are only elements to the answer, not the answer itself.
Let’s start with a cold, yet difficult to digest, reality. Female humans, unlike the rest of the animal kingdom, are not able to do much compared to their male counter part. Female lions and wolves do hunt. Female dears and rabbits will find their food even pregnant. Female humans can hunt only using man-made tools and techniques. The same goes for agriculture and everything that follows. They are of course capable to learn. But creativity, physical strength, ingenuity all remain almost exclusively manly attributes. A “back to the wilderness” that would include only women would obviously end up in a disaster.
If one thinks on an evolutionary stand point: division of labor is probably the reason why female humans got so “weak” and “fragile” over time. Men went hunting and gathering. Women took care of children. Besides, human children are the least capable progeniture in nature (they are the only ones who cannot walk at birth), and they need a huge amount of care. And this is what women “specialized” into. They can easily communicate with them, they have a more urgent need to care and nurture them. This is a basic fact.
And from a Christian point of view… God made us this way. And the paragraph just above explain why he decided to do it this way.
So back to the question: What is being a man?
Being a man is doing everything the women cannot do.
Naturally, as of today, women work has become extremely easy thanks to all home appliance and care centers. So they can indeed take place in the work force. And the man is left with a few key responsibilities in society:
- Uses his brain for thinking and creating
- Acts: is always in the actions, rather than worrying
- Builds: outstanding buildings, homes, machines, computers, etc.
- Gets fits and strong
- Protect his family, his community, his fatherland
- Brings money, security, safety and sacrifice to his family
- Inspires his family
- Leaves a mark
- Doesn’t fear to fight, nor to die for what is right
- Takes decision, is sharp
- Shows rationality when women become emotional
- Shows morality, sets the direction
- Helps the weak, challenges the strong
With this in mindset, you can stop bothering with 99% of all the advises given in the gaming community. A man has to start by accepting who he truly is.
Do some sports, be strong, have a purpose, work hard, dress well (stay classy, no need to spend 3 hours in front of the mirror). Get a job that suits you well (if possible). Help the community. Accept who you are so you can be self-confident. Identify true friends and foe. Imagine the kind of women you want to be with. And Go, any time you meet one available matching your criteria.
And when confronting a women: be calm, because you are the price. What can she do that you can’t? What is impressive? Women have one purpose in your life: making a family. That is as simple as that, and you need only one. If you are sure about what you want, if you know who you are, you will show confidence. And women will appreciate you. Simple as that.
If a man knows what he wants out of life, he will not only show confidence. He will know that he is the price. Not the women.